Posts Tagged ‘Disagreement’

I’m Growing in Disagreement. Now what I mean by that is I am learning how to better approach, talk about, and “pick apart,” something I, at least initially, disagree with. Disagreement is just a part of life, as long as we have our own opinions we will most likely disagree with someone about something. Lately I have been reflecting on how I disagree. I look at my attitude, my tone, my thought processes, and how I respond. And in light of what I see, I need to change my thought process, and approach to disagreement.

When I encounter a statement, blog, paper, opinion, whatever, I find I disagree with I seem to instantly jump to what I think it implies or what it leads to or what I think they are saying. I get ahead of myself. I need to slow down and see clearly what the person is saying. Michael Horton said this “represent your opponent in a way they would recognize.” He also put’s it with the ninth Commandment which is “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.” Basically don’t just jump to what you think they are saying, be able to repeat back to them their view in a way they would agree with. Don’t put words in their mouths. After that you can proceed because now you know what you are really arguing, AKA now you know what your talking about. This also shows that you really are trying to seek understanding here and you not just another arrogant person who “just does not understand.” Now you can respectfully break thinks down and explain why you would disagree (If you still do.)

I think its just hard for our generation to naturally think like this. With all the crazy, and most of the time pointless, debates we have on the internet we rarely approach an issue in a way that seeks understanding. From what I observe we just want to yell out whether we think we agree or if its just trash. I don’t see a lot of real thinking, I see rushed responses, people simply reacting to each other, and not really understanding the issue. And myself included in these observations. I mean none of us would like to admit it but it’s what I see.

So now I try to think differently. I try to understand (really understand not just think I do) the issue at hand and then state my thoughts. I’m doing my best to kick my emotional reactions to the side and really discuss what is being said. I want to be able to disagree with others the way people like Tim Keller, or John Piper do. I want to be able to disagree and respond like my disciplers Don Stubbs and Travis Troyer. You know I just what to be able to respond like I believe Jesus would. I mean that’s the point right!? We are supposed to be more and more like Jesus in everything. Now the men I mentioned above are men that think respond and disagree how I believe Jesus would, they respond in humbleness, they seek understanding, but are uncompromising on the truth of God’s word. I just want to be more like Jesus and this is just another part of me that is being changed to be more like him.

If you want to see the video that really pushed me to confront this issue here it is, it’s fifteen minutes long but its all wisdom.

thegospelcoalition.org/resources/a/chandler_horton_keller_on_how_to_disagree